Let us be candid, let us be honest. Let us be real. Effortlessly straight-up, real deal, deadass, no holds barred, confidently being ourselves and not holding back anything. Secrets aside, in daily, regular conversation between good friends, there are bound to be moments of uncertainty and white lies are used to manipulate the other person at higher stakes but certainly for some advantages benefiting only one side. This is pretty terrible.
Why do you want others to play the fool and treat them as a fool who will fall for your stupid petty LIES? When you lie to someone and you actively take advantage of them over and over and over to the point where they're slave to your verbal-emotional injustice, the friendship is flawed and blinded by this immoral act, this disease. How can you busy while walking. How can you tell someone that you're busy and will not take a minute out to answer a pressing phone call? When you turn to me for help I pick up the phone and listen to your pity parties and crying bombardments. But when I call you for something small, for anything, you don't even have the nerves to listen or to put up with my voice. You tell me subtly that you don't have time and rather have time for walking and thinking and listening TO YOURSELF? It's time that friends need to respect and genuinely believe in making friendships real and active. Don't just call each other friends and actively take it for granted more and more. Taking the person for granted is a sin because you are not taking them at face value and noticing their impermanence. The truth is nobody is permanent in your life---nothing is stable. To lie to yourself and to make it permanent is like holding a friend hostage without their permission. Don't take people for granted, period. When you start taking them for granted, step backwards and notice how grateful you are to be friends with them and to know them.
We do not live in a vacuum. We cannot be completely independent and isolated from society. Therefore we must care for others around us and we must be responsible for the lives of other people around us. When we take things for granted and ignore other people other than ourselves, we negate the bed we wake up on, the lamp we sit by, the dresser we store our material clothes in, the roof over our heads that were graciously erected by other people we are distant and unfamiliar with. YES! Let us not forget that; Thank You Thomas for reminding me that if I forget my maker I'll negate my entire existence. Thanks for reminding me that friends are there full time, not part time. Friends do not feel weighed down by having friends. To think of friends is to be beautiful, to be soothing, to be ameliorating, and even exciting. If it becomes a chore to think about your friends and if you have to take out time to think about your friends, then you sincerely have no friends that you sincerely care about. Those so called friends you possess are people you dont consider friends at all. You should make time and think about your friends and imagine their place at the moment, where they are, and what they're doing. To be with them in your mind's eye is to be connected with them when they're not with you in flesh and blood. Now how do we fall into this trap of discounting friends and taking them for a fool? Sad. Pathetic.
Stop dragging on broken friendships and stop appeasing other people. Stop telling them what they want to hear! The truth does not have to be brutal or deafening. The truth is not supposed to be loaded with attitude or in-your-face double meaning. The truth is supposed to be for the better , for rehabilitative purposes, not for purposes of revenge or taking advantage of someone. The truth should be used as a stepping stone for the growth of friendship, or the complete shut down of a friendship.
Now if you lie to one best friend, who knows, you could lie to me too. If you could it effortlessly and without moving a muscle to one friend, for all I know, you might treat me the same way too. You could be talking shit about me behind my back as well! Why should I trust you. Now bad news travels fast and indeed we are remembered for the bad things we did, but rarely for good things we did. It's time to change that and make positive efforts memorable and make friendships live up to their meaning and let the truth come out, unchanged, unedited, and unashamed.
Oh, and we should not use phrases like "All my Asian people let's get together and fight"; "All my chinks let's unite and fight!" All the elusive phrases and tactics to garner collective action are overused, overrated and most of all, ignorant. They employ strategic essentialism and use the race card as a banding tool, as an easy way to bring people together. Stop abusing the right to use race, and stop preaching ethnocentricity (inclusion-exclusion)!
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